Recently I was talking to a friend who was telling me how she manages the chaos that is her life. She was very adamant in her wording and was convinced that her way was THE way. I didn't argue with her because I realized that it worked for her. But I knew it wouldn't work for me. And that was okay.
I have learned to like that about myself. I don't have to try to do every single thing that other people tell me to do. I can "take what I like and leave the rest". I can give advice or my opinion without requiring the other person to follow it. I can share my life experience. I can offer hope.
I have seen that there are people who need to experience and people who learn from others' experiences. I would rather NOT experience all the trauma. I look and learn from others who have paved the way before me ~~ or fallen off the cliff. I don't have to repeat their experience in order to feel the pain and trauma. I am learning to observe and watch.
I have some friends who ignore everything told to them, who invalidate the experiences of others and "poo poo" them. They think they are special. That just because someone else was crapped on ~ it won't happen to them!! And it may not. But more often ~ it will. I watch these friends alienate the people who want to help them. I see them do the same incredibly stupid things over and over. And then I hear them cry "why me?" It is frustrating and annoying. AND *I* am learning not to participate ~ just to get out of the way.
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